If you've been rendering the newspapers recently, you will desire been struck by yet another fluster of stories about famous men and their pecuniary relations : Arnold Schwarzeneger and his 'love child', Chris Huhne and the speeding ticket, Dominique Strauss-Kahn the ex- be directed of the IMF and then there is .the ‘famous footballer' who was in the end named - there was even an indenture in the Independent entitled 'Is Anyone Faithful Any More? in that a relationship expert states that 'in this age we have a problem with twinkling of an eye gratification.' and the internet is in some degree to blame. 'Its so easy to sickle up on the internet.'
The paper also quoted John Gottman, emeritus professor at the University of Washington, who is with appearance of truth the world's leading expert attached relationships and marital stability. One of his ~ly interesting findings concerns gay relationships:
In 200 years heterosexual relationships enjoin be where gay and lesbian relationships are today." Crucial in these relationships is honesty on the point sex. "Gays and lesbians are further honest. They talk explicitly about monogamy and sex and are in addition mature and honest and less frail in talking about it."
In our tantric schooling sessions, we have also found that honesty in communicating is in the way that very important. Couples who want to learn to what degree to relax more together and improve the lewd side of their relationship are discovering recent communication skills and ways of increasing nearness whilst learning to give one any other a tantric massage.
In the tongues of Eckhart Tolle:
When listening to some other person, don't just listen through your mind, listen with your firm body. Feel the energy field of your interior body as you listen That takes politeness away from thinking and creates a stagnant space that enables you to faithfully listen without the mind interfering. You are giving the other bodily substance space – space to be. It is the ut~ precious gift you can give. Most race don't know how to incline an ear because the major part of their reflection is taken up by thinking. They pay besides attention to that than to what the other person is saying, and not a part at all to what really matters: The essence of the other person underneath the words and mind.
Of course, you cannot perceive someone else's being except from one side your own. This is the inception of the realization of oneness, what one. is love.
At the deepest equal elevation of being, you are one by all that is. Most human relationships consist in the main of minds interacting with each other, not of human beings communicating, inmost nature in communion.' No relationship can come on in that way, and that is for what cause there is so much conflict in relationships….'.
What Eckhart Tolle is speech is, in part, tantric philosphy. Discover who you really are - the 'you' beyond your will, the place in the heart from what one. you connect with love, and you disposition feel at one with everyone. Your life disposition become filled with love and friendship; kind feeling.
So, you could take a principal step and learn to give your member of a ~ship a sensual massage - it is a awful way of learning to connect. When you bestow a sensual massage, you are automatically using your inner intuition and you are listening by your body. You are 'feeling' the one, rather than trying to analyse or mentally understand them.
I loved the TV line called The Sex Inspectors which took a detailed complexion into the sex lives of couples who were in spun out term relationships. The show's presenters, Tracey Cox and Michael Alvear, prescribed a course of tasks, techniques and tips to aid the couple have the kind of sex that leaves them satisfied. Many of the tips could possess come straight out of a tantric massage of the hand. It was a fascinating programme, individually because it achieved such phenomenal results, and couples whose consanguinity was becoming boring and had not to be found its spark, were re-united and rekindled their primordial feelings for one another.
A commentator remarked: 'The Sex Inspectors could be seen as a means of helping couples actual observation the kind of jump start to their sex life which is often achieved by having some affair.' They should have added: or by learning about tantric massage.
