What can be the possible causes when things are not going well in a romantic and sexual relationship? What can you do to improve your relationship and sex life? Here are some common causes of relationship problems and the things you can do to improve your relationship.
(1) Stop blaming each other
It is important not to blame a lack of intimacy on anyone. You may be tempted to place blame on your partner for a lack of emotional and sexual intimacy. You need to understand however that all human beings have inherent need to be close to each other. A better way to handle this is to recognize that both need to take responsibility for having a successful romantic and sexual relationship and to work together at coming up with solutions.
(2) Putting relationship with your partner as a top priority
It is important that you do not let schedules and everyday life get in the way of finding time to work on your relationship. If you have the will to make things better, then you need to look at your joint schedules and find time for you to spend with your partner. Make an effort to sit down and have a 2-way talk with your partner about desires and longings, fears and disappointments, triumphs and successes and any other private and intimate details.
If you and your partner are struggling to discuss the things that matter to you both, a better way will be to allow each of you a 10-minute uninterrupted talk to allow both sides to listen to each other. If both of you know there is limited time, this will encourage you to be more concise and avoid being ‘drown out' if the talking deteriorates into nagging. After both of you have your say, allot a further 10 minutes between you. Allowing time for just the two of you (even if it is just once a week) is very important not only to an intimate sex life but also can give a big boost to your overall health of your relationship.
